Growing Up Montessori-What to Expect Year by Year

Growing Up Montessori-What to Expect Year by Year

by Jennifer Chen

Watching my son Jack transition from a wobbly 15-month-old to a confident six-year-old reader has been one of the most incredible journeys of my parenting life. When people ask me about Montessori, I always tell them: It’s not just about the materials or the mixed-age classrooms—it’s about witnessing your child unfold naturally, at their own perfect pace.

If you’re wondering what this journey looks like year by year, here’s what I’ve learned from watching Jack and his classmates grow up Montessori.

The Toddler Years (15 Months to 3 Years): Building the Foundation

Those First Steps Into Independence (15-18 months)

Remember how overwhelming it felt dropping off your baby for the first time? Jack clung to me like a koala for the first week. But his guide, Ms. Anna, was incredibly patient, helping him feel safe while he watched the older toddlers confidently carrying their little trays and wiping up spills.

 

During these early months, you’ll see your child:

„ Slowly warming up to new routines (yes, there will be tears—yours and theirs!).

„ Becoming fascinated with “real work” like spooning beans or carrying water.

„ Starting to use words for everything they see and touch.

„ Developing those crucial walking skills through all the purposeful movement.

I remember being amazed when Jack, at barely 18 months, insisted on carrying his own lunch tray to the table. At home, I was still carrying everything for him!

The “I Can Do It!” Phase (18-24 months)

This is when things get really exciting. Jack became obsessed with zippers, buttons, and anything that required fine-motor skills. He’d spend twenty minutes working on a single button, completely absorbed. At home, getting dressed took forever because he wanted to do everything himself.

During this phase, you’ll notice:

„ Your child’s confidence soaring as they master new physical skills.

„ An explosion of language—new words every single day.

„ Growing interest in helping with real tasks (let them help with laundry).

„ The beginnings of toilet awareness (but don’t stress about timelines).

My friend Sarah laughed that her daughter Maya became the “snack monitor” at 20 months, carefully counting out crackers for her classmates.

The Social Butterfly Emerges (24-36 months)

By two-and-a-half, Jack was a completely different child. He’d bounce into school, chatting with friends and heading straight to his favorite activities. The parallel play of earlier months transformed into genuine friendships.

This final toddler year brings:

„ Real conversations and storytelling.

„ Mastery of self-care routines (goodbye, diaper changes).

„ Artistic expression through painting, clay, and creative play.

„ Empathy and kindness toward younger children.

„ Growing attention span and focus.

I’ll never forget watching Jack comfort a crying friend by bringing him a tissue and sitting quietly beside him. That kind of emotional intelligence develops naturally in this environment.

The Primary Years (Ages 3-6): Where the Magic Happens

Year One: The Wide-Eyed Explorer (Ages 3-4)

Starting Primary felt like entering a magical world. Jack was mesmerized by the older children’s confidence and the beautiful materials beckoning from every shelf. Those first months were all about exploration and finding his place in this new community.

During this year, you’ll see: z Your child gravitate toward hands-on activities (Jack loved the Pink Tower). z Beginning to trace letters and recognize sounds. z Counting and beginning to understand numbers through concrete materials. z Learning about the world through puzzle maps and nature studies. z Developing grace and courtesy through daily interactions.

The Practical Life work was still Jack’s favorite—he’d spend ages polishing silver or arranging flowers, building the concentration and coordination he’d need for later academic work.

Year Two: The Confident Learner (Ages 4-5)

This is when academic learning really takes off, but in the most natural way. Jack started building words with the Moveable Alphabet before he could even write letters. He was reading simple words by Christmas and writing stories by spring.

z Year two typically brings: z Deeper engagement with all subject areas. z Beginning reading and writing. (at their own pace!). z Understanding place value through the famous golden beads. z Exploring science through hands-on experiments. z Taking on more responsibility in the classroom community.

I remember Jack’s excitement when he finally mastered the Binomial Cube—a complex three-dimensional puzzle that prepares children for algebra concepts. He was so proud to show me how all the pieces fit together.

Year Three: The Classroom Leader (Ages 5-6)

If you’re debating whether to keep your child for the third year, let me tell you: This is when everything comes together. Jack transformed from a student into a teacher, helping younger children and taking genuine ownership of his learning.

The third year is magical because children: z Read fluently and write with confidence. z Understand complex math concepts and can explain them to others. z Lead classroom discussions and help solve conflicts. z Mentor younger children with patience and kindness. z Develop genuine academic confidence and love of learning.

 

Watching Jack teach a three-year-old how to pour water or help a friend sound out a word showed me that he hadn’t just learned facts—he’d learned how to learn and how to care for others.

A Typical Day: What Your Child Actually Experiences

The three-hour morning work period is the heart of the Montessori day. Children choose their own activities based on interest and readiness, working alone or with friends. Jack might start with math work, move to reading, then spend time on a geography project—all self-directed.

The day flows naturally:

‹ Morning greeting and settling into work.

‹ Individual lessons with the guide.

 

‹ Snack when hungry (not when the clock says it’s time).

‹ Outdoor exploration and movement

‹ Group time for stories, songs, and cultural lessons.

‹ Lunch and rest time.

What I love most is that children aren’t rushed from activity to activity. They have time to deeply engage with materials and ideas.

The Beautiful Mixed-Age Magic

One of the most remarkable aspects of Jack’s Montessori experience has been watching him grow within the same classroom community. As a three-year-old, he looked up to the six-year-olds with awe. By his third year, he was the one being looked up to.

This progression creates:

‹ Natural mentoring relationships.

‹ Genuine leadership opportunities.

‹ Reduced academic pressure (no single “grade level” to meet).

‹ Lasting friendships across age groups.

‹ A true sense of classroom community.

Supporting the Journey at Home

The best thing you can do is trust the process and support your child’s growing independence. We set up low shelves with Jack’s art supplies, let him help with real household tasks, and read together every single day.

Most importantly, we learned to step back and let Jack struggle through challenges. The patience and problemsolving skills he developed in school transferred beautifully to home life.

The Transformation

Looking back at photos from Jack’s first day at 15 months and his Primary graduation at six, I’m amazed by the transformation. He went from a toddler who needed help with everything to a confident, capable child who approaches new challenges with curiosity instead of fear.

But the real magic isn’t just in what he learned—it’s in who he became. He’s kind, thoughtful, and genuinely excited about learning. He can focus deeply on tasks that interest him, work collaboratively with others, and approach problems with confidence.

That’s the gift of growing up Montessori: not just academic preparation, but the development of a whole human being who’s ready to take on the world with confidence, compassion, and joy.

Jennifer Chen is a Montessori educator and proud parent.

 

 

Lunch Boxes and learning

Lunch Boxes and learning

Building Independence Through Daily Routines

Montessori education, every experience—no matter how small—is an opportunity to build independence, responsibility, and confidence. That includes the daily tasks we might otherwise rush through, like getting dressed, preparing a lunchbox, or packing a backpack.

At first glance, these routines might seem trivial compared to academic lessons. But in Montessori, they are seen as essential parts of a child’s development. When children are encouraged to take ownership of these everyday responsibilities, they gain more than just practical skills— they develop habits of self-reliance that shape how they approach learning, relationships, and life itself.

The Power of Practical Life

Montessori classrooms include an entire area dedicated to Practical Life activities, such as pouring, cutting, cleaning, and food preparation. These activities help children develop:

• Coordination: Fine-motor skills that support writing and other academic tasks.

• Order and Sequencing: Understanding steps in a process—from washing hands before a meal to organizing materials for a project.

• Concentration: The ability to focus deeply on purposeful tasks.

• Independence: A growing sense of “I can do it myself!” that spills over into all areas of life.

When children practice these skills at home—through dressing themselves, packing their lunch, or helping with meal prep—they reinforce the same capacities nurtured in the classroom.

Packing the Lunchbox: A Lesson in Choice and Responsibility

Instead of quickly packing your child’s lunch for them, consider inviting your child to help—or even take the lead. For younger children, this might mean choosing from a set of options you provide (Would you like apple slices or grapes today?). Older children can help assemble sandwiches, portion snacks, and even plan the menu for the week.

Through packing their own lunch, children learn:

• Planning: Deciding what to include requires thinking ahead.

• Nutrition: They start to understand what makes a balanced meal.

• Self-Care: Choosing foods they enjoy encourages mindfulness about what nourishes their bodies.

• Pride in Preparation: When a child eats a lunch they helped prepare, it often tastes better simply because they had a hand in making it.

Dressing for Success: More Than Just Clothes

Getting dressed might seem like a small task, but for a child, it’s a big step toward autonomy. Montessori teachers encourage children to dress themselves from an early age, using clothing that’s easy to manage, like elastic waistbands, large buttons, and simple fasteners.

At home, giving your child time to dress themselves each morning sends a powerful message: I believe in your ability to care for yourself.

This simple routine helps children develop:

• Fine-motor skills (zipping, buttoning, tying),

• Decision-making skills (choosing weather-appropriate clothing),

• Time awareness (getting ready within a timeframe),

• Confidence and competence. It may take longer at first—and it can be tempting to jump in when the clock is ticking—but that extra time is an investment in your child’s growing self-sufficiency.

Building a little bit of extra time into the activity decreases tension on both sides.

Small Tasks, Big Life Skills

Each of these daily routines—dressing, packing lunch, getting out the door on time—builds layers of important life skills:

• Sequencing: Understanding the order in which things need to happen.

• Personal Responsibility: Knowing they are capable of managing their own needs.

• Problem-Solving: Figuring out how to open tricky lunch containers or adapt to a forgotten item.

• Self-Confidence: Feeling proud of their ability to care for themselves.

And perhaps most importantly, these routines build executive function—the mental skills that help us plan, focus attention, remember instructions, and juggle multiple tasks. These are critical for success not only in school but throughout life.

How Parents Can Support Independence at Home

• Create a Child-Friendly Setup: Use low hooks, step stools, and accessible shelves so your child can reach their clothes, lunch supplies, and backpack.

• Allow Time: Start the morning a bit earlier to give your child time to complete tasks without rushing.

• Offer Choices: Guide your child by offering limited, appropriate choices (e.g., “Would you like the blue shirt or the red one?”).

• Be Patient: Mastery takes time and repetition. Focus on progress, not perfection.

• Model and Teach: Show your child how to do a task, then step back and let them try.

Independence: A Gift That Lasts

When we slow down and invite children to participate in daily routines, we’re not just saving a few minutes for ourselves—we’re empowering them for life. These small, everyday tasks build the mindset and abilities that help

Montessori children become capable, thoughtful, and self-directed learners.

So the next time your child zips up their jacket or carefully places their sandwich in their lunchbox, know that they’re not just getting ready for the day—they’re preparing for life. 

Screen Time & Young Minds – Recommendations for Technology Use at Home

Screen Time & Young Minds – Recommendations for Technology Use at Home

by Tim Seldin, President, The Montessori Foundation

In today’s world, screens are everywhere—smartphones, tablets, televisions, laptops—filling our homes, workplaces, and even classrooms. For parents trying to raise children in alignment with Montessori principles, navigating this reality can feel overwhelming. How much screen time is too much? Is any screen time appropriate for young children? And most importantly, what would Maria Montessori think about the role of technology in a child’s development?

While Dr. Montessori lived long before the digital age, her observations about child development remain remarkably relevant. If she were with us today, I believe she would encourage us to ask: Does this technology serve the child’s development? Does it help them grow in independence, curiosity, confidence, and self-awareness? With those questions in mind, let’s explore what Montessori suggests about technology use at home.

The Montessori Perspective: Hands Before Screens

At the heart of Montessori education is the understanding that young children (especially those under six) learn best through direct, hands-on engagement with the real world. Movement, the manipulation of physical materials, and rich sensory experiences are essential for brain development in these formative years.

By contrast, screens offer a two-dimensional experience that tends to be passive. Whether it’s a video, a digital game, or even an educational app, the experience often lacks the tactile feedback, movement, and deep concentration that Montessori materials provide. That’s why we suggest that for infants, toddlers, and very young children, screen time should be minimal or avoided entirely in favor of real-life experiences.

Dr. Montessori described the “absorbent mind” as the young child’s extraordinary ability to learn simply by interacting with their environment. To flourish, this absorbent mind needs real things: to touch, taste, climb, build, carry, pour, and explore—not just to swipe, tap, or watch.

Why Real-World Engagement Matters

The first years of life are when children build foundational skills: understanding cause and effect; developing spatial awareness; mastering language; and learning how to interact socially. These developmental tasks are best supported by:

• Handling real objects (blocks, utensils, tools);

• Moving freely and with purpose (indoors and outdoors);

• Conversing with real people in their daily lives;

• Exploring nature: digging in the dirt, observing insects, feeling the wind; and

• Participating in practical life activities, such as cooking, cleaning, gardening.

• Time spent in front of screens can displace these crucial, real-world experiences. While some digital content may be educational in intention, it still can’t replace the development of fine-motor skills, emotional intelligence, and problem-solving abilities that come from active, hands-on learning.

What About Older Children?

As children grow, particularly after age six, their cognitive abilities mature, and they become more capable of abstract thinking and symbolic reasoning. At this stage, Montessori principles still prioritize concrete experiences, but technology can start to play a thoughtful, purposeful role in learning.

Older children might:

• Research topics that capture their curiosity.

• Create presentations, stories, or digital artwork.

• Use apps for music composition, coding, or design.

• Communicate with distant family and collaborate on group projects.

Even then, the Montessori guideline remains: Technology should be a tool for creation, inquiry, and connection, not passive consumption. The goal is for children to be producers of knowledge, not just consumers of entertainment.

Guiding Principles for Montessori Families on Technology

If you want to align your family’s technology use with Montessori principles, here are the core guidelines I recommend.

• Delay Introduction for Young Children: For those under the age of three, avoid screens entirely, except for the occasional family video call.

• Prioritize Hands-On Learning: Make sure each day includes unstructured play, movement, outdoor exploration, and practical tasks.

• Be Intentional: Select high-quality, developmentally appropriate content that encourages critical thinking or creativity. Avoid content that is loud, fast-paced, or reward-driven.

• Watch Together: When screens are used, join your child. Co-viewing makes the experience social, gives you the opportunity to ask questions, and deepens understanding.

• Model Balanced Behavior: Children learn from our example. Let them see you read, cook, create, and engage without screens.

• Set Consistent Limits: Establish clear boundaries around screen time, such as avoiding devices during meals, before bedtime, or in bedrooms.

• Encourage Creation Over Consumption: Opt for screen activities that let children create—whether that’s drawing, coding, making videos, or creating music.

A Montessori Vision for Technology

If Maria Montessori were alive today, I believe she’d remind us that technology is neither inherently good nor bad; it’s a tool. The question is always: How does this serve the child’s growth?

For young minds, there is no substitute for real experiences. But for older children, technology (used thoughtfully) can extend their ability to explore, create, and connect with the world. The key is balance, intentionality, and keeping the child’s development at the center of every decision.

In Montessori, our work is always to support the child’s unfolding—not by shielding them from the world, but by guiding them to engage with it wisely, with curiosity, and with joy.

Tim Seldin is President of the Montessori Foundation. His more than 40 years of experience in Montessori education includes 22 years as Headmaster of the Barrie School in Silver Spring, Maryland, his alma mater from toddler through high school graduation. Tim was Co-Founder and Director of the Institute for Advanced Montessori Studies and the Center for Guided Montessori Studies. He earned a B.A. in History and Philosophy from Georgetown University, an M.Ed. in Educational Administration and Supervision from The American University, and his Montessori certification from the American Montessori Society.

Tim is the author of several books on Montessori Education, including How to Raise An Amazing Child, and The World in the Palm of Her Hand. Look for his newest book, Montessori for Every Family, co-authored with Lorna McGrath.

Understanding the three-year cycle in montessori

Understanding the three-year cycle in montessori

by Maria Rodriguez

After more than twenty years as a Montessori guide, I’ve witnessed countless aha moments when parents finally understand why we structure our classrooms the way we do. Just last week, a parent asked me, “Why is my five-year-old in the same room as three-year-olds? Shouldn’t she be with kids her own age?”

It’s a fair question and one I love answering, because the three-year cycle is truly the heart of what makes Montessori education so powerful.

In my primary classroom, I watch the same children grow from tentative three-year-olds to confident six-year-olds who practically run the place. It’s not just about mixing ages; it’s about creating a living, breathing community, where each child has a role that evolves over time.

Take Maya, for example. When she first arrived as a shy three-year-old, she spent weeks observing before she even touched a material. Now, in her third year, she’s the one who notices when a new child needs help finding the bathroom or shows them how to roll a work mat properly. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight; it unfolds over three years of building trust, competence, and confidence.

I see this pattern repeat with every child:

» First-year children (ages 3-4) are like sponges, absorbing everything around them. They’re learning not just academic skills, but how to be part of a community. They watch the older children with wide eyes, unconsciously learning social graces and work habits.

» Second-year children (ages 4-5) find their stride. They know the routines, they’ve built relationships, and they’re ready to tackle more complex work. They start helping younger children naturally, not because I ask them to, but because they want to.

» Third-year children (ages 5-6) become the classroom leaders. They’ve internalized the peace table process, enabling them to resolve conflicts effectively, and they take genuine pride in mentoring younger friends. This is their capstone year, when everything they’ve learned comes together in remarkable ways.

Why This Structure Works So Well

The Gift of Time and Continuity: One of the most beautiful aspects of the three-year cycle is that I get to truly know each child. I observe their learning patterns, their interests, their challenges, and their growth spurts. By the third year, I know that Marcus learns best in the morning, that Sophia needs extra time to process new concepts, and that Ahmed is ready for advanced math work even though he’s only five.

This deep knowledge allows me to meet each child exactly where they are, not where a curriculum guide says they should be.

Learning without Artificial Limits: In traditional classrooms, children are often held back by grade-level expectations. In my Montessori environment, I’ve seen four-year-olds reading chapter books and six-year-olds just beginning to write their names; both scenarios are perfectly normal and celebrated.

Last year, I had a five-year-old who was fascinated by the decimal system. Instead of saying “that’s too advanced,” I introduced him to more complex math materials. Meanwhile, his age-mate was still perfecting her Practical Life skills, and that was exactly what she needed.

The Magic of Peer Teaching: Some of my most powerful teaching moments happen when I step back and let the children teach each other. When six-year-old Elena explains the Color Tablets to three-year-old Jordan, she’s not just being helpful; she’s reinforcing her understanding in a way that no worksheet ever could.

I’ve noticed that children often learn better from their peers than from adults. There’s something about the way a child explains a concept that resonates with another child’s understanding.

Building Real Leadership Skills: By their third year, children in my classroom aren’t just older; they’re genuinely responsible community members. They help resolve conflicts, they notice when someone needs support, and they take ownership of our classroom environment.

I remember watching six-year-old David comfort a crying three-year-old by getting him a tissue and sitting quietly beside him until he felt better. That kind of emotional intelligence and empathy develops through years of being part of a caring community.

When the Cycle Gets Interrupted

It breaks my heart a little when families leave before completing the three-year cycle. The third year is when children shine—when they get to be the “big kids” who have waited patiently for their turn to lead.

I’ve seen children who left after two years and came back to visit. They’re often wistful, saying things like, “I wish I could have been a helper like Sarah is now.” They sense they missed something important.

That said, children who join mid-cycle can still benefit enormously. They just need extra support to find their place in our established community.

What I Tell Parents

When parents worry about the multi-age classroom, I remind them that this is how learning happens in real life. In families, older siblings naturally help younger ones. In communities, people of all ages work together. Our classroom simply mirrors this natural dynamic.

I also encourage parents to trust the process, especially during those quieter developmental periods. Some years, your child might seem to plateau academically while they’re doing important social and emotional work. Other years, they’ll make dramatic leaps. Both are valuable and necessary.

If I could convince every parent of just one thing, it would be to stay for that crucial third year. This is when children experience what we call academic explosion, when reading, writing, and math concepts suddenly click in profound ways.

But more than that, it’s when children develop true confidence. They’ve mastered the environment, they know their place in the community, and they’re ready to take on bigger challenges. They leave my classroom not just academically prepared but emotionally and socially ready for whatever comes next.

My classroom is a living laboratory, where children discover not just academic concepts but how to be human beings in community with others. The three-year cycle gives them the time and space to develop at their own pace while contributing to something larger than themselves.

After all these years, I still get excited watching a timid three-year-old transform into a confident six-year-old leader. It’s a privilege to witness this growth, and it’s only possible because we honor the natural rhythm of child development through our three-year cycle.

The mixed-age classroom isn’t just a nice idea; it’s a carefully designed environment that allows children to experience themselves as learners, helpers, and leaders. And that, ultimately, is what prepares them not just for the next level of school, but for life itself.

Maria Rodriguez is a Montessori guide. She holds her Primary Montessori certification and is passionate about helping parents understand the beauty of Montessori education.

What’s New in Montessori

What’s New in Montessori

Innovations & Timeless Traditions for 2025-2026

Every September brings a familiar energy to Montessori classrooms: new faces, new lessons, and new opportunities to explore the world. As the 2025-2026 school year begins, parents may wonder—what’s changing in Montessori education? The beauty of Montessori is its foundation of timeless principles, yet it also evolves to meet the needs of today’s children and families.

Here’s a look at what’s fresh and what remains steadfast in Montessori classrooms this year.

Timeless Traditions That Still Shine

At its core, Montessori remains true to the vision Maria Montessori shared over a century ago: an education designed to cultivate independence, concentration, respect, and a lifelong love of learning. Some things never change—and for good reason.

• The Prepared Environment: Classrooms are still meticulously organized, inviting, and scaled to the child’s size and perspective. This empowers children to navigate their space independently.

• The Three-Year Cycle: Multiage classrooms continue to foster mentorship, leadership, and deep, individualized learning. Children progress at their own pace within a community that mirrors family life.

• Hands-On, Self-Correcting Materials: Montessori materials remain the gold standard for concrete, tactile learning. Whether it’s the Pink Tower in early childhood or Algebra Tiles in the upper levels, these tools translate abstract concepts into something a child can touch and explore.

• Grace and Courtesy: The social fabric of the classroom remains intentional. Children are still guided in respectful communication, empathy, and collaboration—skills as essential in life as reading or math.

 

 

 

Emerging Patterns

While the foundation remains strong, Montessori schools today are thoughtfully integrating new insights, tools, and strategies to keep the experience relevant and supportive.

by Montessori Foundation Staff

 

 

 

 

• Mindfulness and Well-Being Programs: Many Montessori schools are now embedding mindfulness practices into the daily routine—guided breathing, yoga stretches, or quiet reflection times help children develop emotional regulation in a fast-paced world.

• Enhanced Outdoor Classrooms: Outdoor learning spaces have expanded well beyond playgrounds. Schools are incorporating nature-based classrooms, gardening, and environmental stewardship activities that extend the Montessori curriculum into the natural world.

• Contemporary Cultural Studies: Montessori’s focus on geography, history, and culture now includes current global challenges. Topics like climate change, sustainability, and global citizenship are becoming integrated in ways that are age-appropriate and action-oriented. Typically, there is no political agenda. Montessori families represent a wide range of traditions and perspectives. The common theme is to honor the country in which we live, while learning about and celebrating the many cultures and traditions of the people who came to our country from the global community.

• Montessori and Technology—With Care: While Montessori remains cautious about screens for young children, thoughtfully curated digital tools are increasingly used with older students. Tools like digital microscopes, coding platforms, and collaborative research software enhance exploration in science and humanities without replacing hands-on learning.

• Inclusion: Many Montessori schools are deepening their commitment to inclusive education. This includes diversifying classroom materials and literature, celebrating a broader range of cultural traditions, and fostering conversations about equity, belonging, and respect.

The Montessori Continuum: Stronger Than Ever

Another exciting development is the growth of Montessori education beyond early childhood. More schools are offering Montessori programs for elementary, middle, and even high school students, giving families the option to continue this philosophy through adolescence. These programs incorporate more complex projects, entrepreneurship, and real-world experiences—all still grounded in Montessori’s developmental approach.

 

 

 

A Living Tradition

Montessori is often described as both an art and a science of education. Its enduring strength lies in the balance between preserving proven methods and embracing innovations that serve today’s learners. As you send your child off to school this fall, you can be confident that they are part of a living tradition—one that honors the child’s natural development while preparing them for the world they will inherit.

2025 Montessori-Inspired Trends for Parents

Montessori education doesn’t stop at the classroom door. Many parents want to bring elements of the Montessori approach into their homes, and new ideas are making it easier than ever. Here’s what’s trending with Montessori families this year:

• Home Organization for Independence: Parents are rethinking home spaces to help children do more for themselves—think low shelves, accessible kitchen tools, and self-serve snack stations. New modular furniture systems designed for Montessori homes are also gaining popularity.

• Mindful Tech Use: Families are adopting digital wellness practices— setting boundaries around screen time and using tech-free times for family connection. Some are introducing “tech sabbath” days on weekends to rest from screens altogether.

• Nature Play and Outdoor Learning: With the growth of outdoor classrooms, parents are creating home gardens, nature play areas, and even simple outdoor art spaces to encourage exploration and physical activity.

• Diverse Bookshelves: Parents are expanding their home libraries with children’s books that celebrate diverse cultures, perspectives, and stories— mirroring the inclusion that we tend to see in schools.

• Montessori Parenting Courses: A growing number of online courses and parent education groups help families learn how to apply Montessori principles in daily parenting, including positive discipline, fostering independence, and nurturing curiosity at home.

By embracing some of these trends, families can extend the benefits of Montessori education and help their children thrive in every environment.

Hiring and Retaining Teachers in Today’s Competitive Preschool Market

Hiring and Retaining Teachers in Today’s Competitive Preschool Market

hiring teachers

1907-2025 Welcome to the 119th Montessori School Year!

If you’ve tried to hire a preschool teacher in America in the last year or so, you know it’s not easy. Great early childhood educators are in high demand—and in short supply. And even when you manage to hire someone wonderful, keeping them can be just as difficult.

Low wages, burnout, and competition from better-paying industries have pushed many talented educators out of early childhood altogether. As school leaders, we find ourselves navigating a tough reality: the mission we believe in is only as sustainable as the team we can build and retain.

But there is hope—and there are strategies that work. This article is meant to serve as a practical guide for school owners and directors across Florida who are determined to build stable, joyful, mission-driven teams—even in a competitive market.

The Realities We’re Facing

I live in Florida, where this is a state-wide challenge, but we’re not alone in our staffing crisis; we’re feeling it intensely. Early childhood teachers are leaving the field for better pay and more predictable hours. Many work two jobs. Some leave mid-year, overwhelmed and under-resourced.

A Wall Street Journal feature by Anne Tergesen and Veronica Dagher laid it out clearly: child care centers are facing a national workforce emergency. The article points to five areas of systemic breakdown—but also offers several forward-looking solutions that are worth our attention.

Why Retention Matters More Than Ever

When a teacher leaves, it disrupts far more than the schedule. Children lose the sense of consistency that’s foundational to trust and emotional development. Remaining staff absorb the stress and often begin thinking about leaving, too. Parents grow uneasy. The learning community suffers.

The cost of turnover isn’t just financial—it’s cultural.

What You Can Do: Six Strategies That Make a Real Difference

Here’s what the most resilient programs are doing to attract and retain great educators in a high-pressure environment.

1. Build a Culture of Respect and Belonging

Educators stay where they feel seen and supported. According to Teaching Strategies’ national survey, over 60% of teachers cite a respectful workplace as the top reason they would stay in a role long-term.

This doesn’t cost money—but it does require leadership. Be visible. Listen actively. Say thank you often. Create space for input and ideas. Celebrate small wins. And above all, make sure your teachers know their work matters.

2. Provide Competitive Compensation (and Creative Benefits)

We all know the financial limits of running a preschool. But the Wall Street Journal article reminds us that compensation isn’t just about the hourly wage—it’s about the whole package. Some programs are thinking creatively:

  • Offering paid professional development days
  • Giving staff discounted or free child care
  • Providing stipends for classroom materials
  • Offering extra paid days off around holidays or birthdays
  • Contributing to healthcare stipends or mental health wellness plans

You may not be able to offer everything—but even a few thoughtful perks show that you value your team and are invested in their well-being.

3. Offer Flexibility Where You Can

One of the Journal‘s key points was that burnout is driving many educators away—not just low pay. Long hours, little planning time, and a lack of schedule control all contribute.

Consider:

  • Job sharing or part-time roles
  • Floaters to give lead teachers breaks
  • Weekly planning time built into the schedule
  • A clear PTO policy that’s actually respected

Small adjustments to how time is used can make a big difference in retention.

4. Create Career Pathways

Another insight from the WSJ article: many states and school systems are beginning to offer tuition-free CDA and fast-track credentialing programs. Why? Because when early educators see a future in the field, they stay longer.

Connect with your local community college or workforce board. Offer to host practicum students. Support your assistants in getting their credentials. Celebrate professional milestones publicly. Build a culture where teachers grow with you—not outgrow you.

5. Build a Mentorship Model

Don’t let new teachers feel like they’re on their own. Create a system where new hires are paired with experienced mentors. Hold monthly reflection circles. Check in regularly. Sometimes a single conversation can prevent a resignation.

Strong teams don’t just form—they’re nurtured.

6. Invest in Tools That Help Teachers Succeed

Teachers are more likely to stay when they have what they need to do their job well. That includes a high-quality curriculum, practical assessment tools, and streamlined communication systems.

Avoid overloading them with disconnected apps or disorganized systems. Streamline, simplify, and ensure your tools support—not hinder—the classroom day’s flow.

BTW: I consult with a few software providers. If you run a childcare center, I warmly encourage you to look into Illumine (https://illumine.app/). It is new to America, but strikes me as being much more powerful and user-friendly than other ECE software that I have found. If you run a Montessori school, I warmly recommend the Montessori Growth Suite, which is the best match that I have found for our schools (https://www.montessoricompass.com/growth-suite/).

A Sample Retention Rhythm You Can Adopt

If you’re looking to build retention habits into your leadership rhythm, try this:

Weekly:

  • Check in with your team informally—how are they really doing?

Monthly:

  • Offer one hour of paid planning time or peer sharing.
  • Recognize staff contributions publicly—in meetings, emails, or parent newsletters.

Quarterly:

  • Hold a one-on-one review focused on support, not evaluation.
  • Ask for feedback on what would help them thrive.

Annually:

  • Conduct a formal survey on satisfaction and workplace culture.
  • Revisit compensation and consider where you can improve—even incrementally.

Wrapping Up

Yes, the market is tough. Yes, there are factors outside of your control. But there are also many things within your reach.

Hiring and retaining teachers in today’s Florida preschool landscape starts with building a school culture that respects educators, supports their growth, and treats them as the professionals they are.

And as the Wall Street Journal put it, the future of early education will depend on how we reimagine our approach—not just with funding, but with leadership and care.

Here’s a Sample Staff Retention Survey that you can use with your preschool team. It’s written in a clear, respectful tone and structured to gather meaningful feedback while reinforcing a culture of listening and professionalism.

Staff Retention & Satisfaction Survey

Confidential – Your feedback helps us build a better place to work

Please take a few minutes to reflect on your experience at our school. Your honest input will help us understand what we’re doing well and where we can grow.

Your Name (optional): _______________________________ Your Position: _______________________________ Length of time at the school: _______________________________


1. Overall Satisfaction

1.1 On a scale of 1 to 5, how satisfied are you working at this school? (1 = Very Unsatisfied, 5 = Very Satisfied) ☐ 1 ☐ 2 ☐ 3 ☐ 4 ☐ 5

1.2 What do you enjoy most about working here?


 


 


1.3 What frustrates you or makes your job harder than it needs to be?


 


 


2. Work Environment & Culture

2.1 I feel respected and valued by… (Check all that apply) ☐ My direct supervisor ☐ School leadership ☐ My fellow team members ☐ Families ☐ Not sure

2.2 I feel comfortable giving feedback or raising concerns. ☐ Always ☐ Usually ☐ Sometimes ☐ Rarely ☐ Never

2.3 I feel part of a collaborative team. ☐ Strongly agree ☐ Agree ☐ Neutral ☐ Disagree ☐ Strongly disagree

2.4 If you could improve one thing about our team culture, what would it be?


 


 


3. Compensation & Workload

3.1 I feel my compensation is fair for the responsibilities of my role. ☐ Strongly agree ☐ Agree ☐ Neutral ☐ Disagree ☐ Strongly disagree

3.2 The workload I carry is… ☐ Very manageable ☐ Manageable ☐ Sometimes overwhelming ☐ Frequently overwhelming

3.3 What type of support would make your work easier or more sustainable?


 


 


4. Growth & Development

4.1 I have opportunities for professional growth at this school. ☐ Strongly agree ☐ Agree ☐ Neutral ☐ Disagree ☐ Strongly disagree

4.2 I would be interested in: ☐ Earning a credential (CDA, FCCPC, etc.) ☐ Attending workshops or conferences ☐ Mentoring a new teacher ☐ Having a mentor or coach ☐ Leading a project or initiative ☐ None at this time

4.3 What would help you grow in your role?


 


 


5. Retention & Intentions

5.1 I see myself continuing to work here… ☐ Next school year ☐ For at least 2 more years ☐ For the foreseeable future ☐ I’m unsure ☐ I’m actively considering leaving

5.2 If you’re considering leaving, what factors are influencing your decision?


 


 


6. Final Thoughts

6.1 What’s one thing we’re doing well that you’d like us to keep doing?


6.2 What’s one thing we could do better to support our staff?


 


Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey. Your voice matters.

The Art of Holding Difficult Conversations: Leading with Clarity and Compassion

The Art of Holding Difficult Conversations: Leading with Clarity and Compassion

Montessori Growth Suite

1907-2025 Welcome to the 119th Montessori School Year!

NOTE: I would like to acknowledge my colleague, Jonathan Wolf, with whom I have taught courses and presented on this topic. His wisdom inspired much of what we have to share. 

 

Every school leader has faced that moment: the knock on the office door, the email asking for a meeting, or the parent who catches your arm at pick-up and says, “Do you have a minute?” Often, what follows isn’t a quick chat at all, but a difficult conversation—one that carries the weight of a child’s future, a family’s fears, or the delicate balance of trust between home and school.

I remember a father who once sat across from me, arms crossed tightly, eyes narrowed, as I tried to explain that his daughter was struggling socially and academically. His words came sharp and defensive: “Are you saying my child isn’t smart enough?” It would have been easy to respond in kind, but in that moment, I had to remind myself: this isn’t about winning an argument—it’s about helping a child. What that father needed most wasn’t more data or sharper reasoning. He needed to know that we were on his side.

That’s what these conversations are really about. They aren’t just about problems; they’re about leadership.

 

Why These Conversations Matter

Every Montessori leader eventually has to step into these spaces:

  • Conversations about neurodiversity or developmental differences

  • Talking through disciplinary issues

  • Helping parents process their child’s academic or social struggles

  • Addressing resistance or outright denial

Handled poorly, these conversations can erode trust. But approached with clarity and compassion, they can strengthen partnerships and open new doors for children.

 

Quick Tips for School Leaders

  • Don’t let the first call home be about bad news—share positives regularly.

  • Choose the right time and place; never have these talks on the run.

  • Enter with curiosity, not conclusions.

  • End with clear agreements and follow-up dates.

 

Preparing Your Heart and Mind

The real preparation for these conversations begins inside of us. Before meeting with a parent, pause and ask:

  • What emotions does this situation stir up for me?

  • Am I approaching with openness or judgment?

  • What outcome do I truly want for this child and family?

Parents pick up on our energy. If we carry frustration, they feel it. But when we arrive with empathy and steadiness, we make space for real dialogue.

 

The Importance of Trust Before Trouble

One teacher I worked with made it her habit to email parents every Friday afternoon with one small snapshot: a funny story, a kind act, or a proud achievement. These weren’t long notes, but they added up. Months later, when a sensitive issue arose, those parents already trusted her voice.

Trust is built in those small deposits. When it’s there, the hard conversations can begin on solid ground.

 

Language That Builds Bridges

  • Instead of: “Your child is disruptive.”

  • Try: “We’ve noticed some behaviors that seem to be getting in the way of her learning.”

  • Instead of: “You need to fix this at home.”

  • Try: “What have you noticed at home? Let’s look at this together.”

A Framework That Works

  1. Start with affirmation and shared purpose.
    Open by affirming the child: “We all care deeply about Sam, and we want him to feel successful and confident here.”
  2. Ask, listen, ask again.
    Begin with open-ended questions, listen deeply, then ask clarifying follow-ups. This shows respect and genuine curiosity.
  3. Explore, don’t diagnose.
    Frame the challenge as a shared puzzle, not a verdict. Admit what you don’t yet know, and invite parents’ insights.
  4. Try “Feel–Felt–Found.”
    When parents are defensive: “I understand how you feel. Other parents have felt the same way. What we’ve found is…”
  5. Know when to pause.
    If emotions boil over, suggest reconvening later. Protecting the relationship matters more than pushing through.
  6. End with clarity.
    Summarize agreements, document responsibilities, set follow-up dates, and provide resources.

 

Sidebar: Reflection Prompts for Leaders

  • What conversations make you most uncomfortable? Why?

  • How do your own experiences as a parent or teacher shape your reactions?

  • When was a time you left a conversation feeling proud of how you handled it? What made the difference?

A Montessori Lens on Leadership

Maria Montessori once wrote, “Purify your heart and render it burning with charity.” For me, that is the essence of school leadership.

These conversations aren’t interruptions to the “real work.” They are the real work. When we model honesty joined with compassion, we show parents and children alike that dignity and respect matter as much as academics.

 

Walking Away Stronger

That father I mentioned at the beginning? Months later, after his daughter had made great progress, he came back into my office. This time, his arms weren’t crossed. He leaned forward and said quietly, “Thank you for not giving up on us.”

That’s the lasting power of these conversations. When we lead them with honesty, courage, and compassion, we not only resolve immediate issues—we strengthen the bonds that hold our communities together.

So, the next time your stomach tightens before a parent meeting, remember this: you are not just managing conflict. You are leading with love. And that, in the end, is the heart of Montessori leadership.

A Parent’s Guide to Observing in a Montessori Classroom

A Parent’s Guide to Observing in a Montessori Classroom

Montessori Growth Suite

1907-2025 Welcome to the 119th Montessori School Year!

 

One of the most meaningful ways to understand your child’s Montessori experience is to come and see it for yourself. Montessori classrooms are carefully designed learning communities, and when parents sit quietly and watch, they often gain a new appreciation for their child’s day-to-day world.

At our school, we invite—and encourage—you to observe. Visiting with open eyes and a calm presence helps you see what makes Montessori unique, and it deepens your connection to your child’s education.

When to Visit

Observations are most helpful once the class has settled into its routines. During the very first weeks of school, children are adjusting to new rhythms, new classmates, and a new environment. For that reason, most schools ask parents to hold off until those sensitive early weeks are over.

When you are ready to schedule a visit, please reach out to your child’s teacher. Advance notice allows the class to prepare for a smooth experience and ensures the teacher won’t feel pressured to interrupt lessons to talk with you.

When you arrive, sign in at the office to receive a visitor’s badge and an observation form. This helps us keep the school secure and provides a simple guide on what to look for during your time in the classroom.

How to Observe

When you enter, the teacher will direct you to a chair set aside for visitors. We’d like to ask you to remain seated and quiet so the children can stay focused on their work without distraction. Think of yourself as a gentle presence in the room—like a guest at a concert who is there to listen and take it in.

Patient observation often reveals far more than you expect. At first, you may notice the layout of the shelves, the calm hum of activity, or the way children move about the room with quiet purpose. On later visits, you’ll begin to pick up the subtle details that make Montessori learning so powerful.

What to Look For

Here are a few areas you might focus on:

  • The Environment
    How is the classroom organized? Notice the shelves, materials, and child-sized furniture. Everything is arranged to invite independence and exploration.

  • The Role of the Teacher
    Watch how adults interact with the children. Do they guide gently, offer lessons one-on-one, or step back to allow independence? You may notice moments of discipline handled calmly and respectfully.

  • The Children at Work
    You can focus on a child other than your own for at least half an hour. How does she choose her activities? How deeply does she concentrate? What happens when she completes her work?

  • The Materials
    Please take a look at which Montessori materials children are drawn to. Each material is designed with a built-in control of error, so children can discover and correct mistakes on their own. Can you spot a child quietly self-correcting?

  • Peer Learning
    See how younger children learn from older classmates, and how older ones gain confidence by mentoring younger friends. These subtle exchanges are one of the great strengths of the multi-age classroom.

Why It Matters

Observation is not only about watching children; it’s also about discovering the deeper philosophy behind Montessori. You’ll see a classroom where independence, concentration, and curiosity are nurtured. You may even find yourself wishing you could join in!

By sitting quietly and noticing the details, you’ll gain new insight into how your child learns, how the teacher guides, and how the environment itself supports growth.

So, when you have the chance, take a seat in the visitor’s chair. Be patient. Watch closely. You’ll walk away with a richer understanding of your child’s world—and perhaps a renewed sense of wonder yourself.

Montessori Classroom Observation Form

Visitor Name: _____________________________________
Date: _________________________
Classroom/Level: __________________________________

Thank you for observing today! Please take a few quiet notes while you sit in the classroom. This form is designed to help you focus on what makes Montessori unique. You are welcome to keep it for yourself or share it with the school.

1. The Classroom Environment

  • How is the room arranged?

  • What do you notice about the shelves, materials, and furnishings?

  • Does the space feel calm and inviting?

Notes:


 


 


2. Children at Work

  • What do you notice about how children choose and use their work?

  • Do they concentrate for long periods?

  • Do you see them self-correcting or working together?

Notes:


 


 


 

3. Teacher Interactions

  • How do the adults speak with the children?

  • Did you notice a teacher presenting a lesson?

  • How is guidance or discipline handled?

Notes:


 


 


4. Montessori Materials

  • Which materials did you see being used?

  • What concepts or skills did they isolate?

  • Did you notice children teaching or modeling for one another?

Notes:


 


 


5. Community Life

  • How do younger and older children interact?

  • What do you notice about respect, independence, or collaboration?

Notes:


 


 


6. Reflections

  • What surprised you about what you saw?

  • What questions or insights do you take away from this visit?

Notes:


 


 


Optional: Feedback for the School