Candid Conversations
Parents & Adult Montessori Children
The sun shone on the gleaming wooden boxes, the healthy plants, and the happy rabbit living quietly in the corner as I followed my daughter into a Montessori classroom for the first time. I had searched the Phoenix Valley for a place for my two-year-old to spend the mornings while I worked on my master’s degree. The daycares I visited were loud, smelly, and unnerving with the constant sound of crying. Then, just like in the folk story, I found just what I had been looking for, practically in my own backyard. Rainbow Montessori School was housed in a ranch-style house with a large patio, where children were welcome to work at any time. There were glass plates on the snack shelf, enticing materials in each room, and peaceful adults helping when needed. I observed a class and couldn’t wait for my daughter to start. The teacher would bring her out to the car line each day and say something like, “Lina worked on the color boxes today.” “The color boxes? What are the color boxes?” I needed to know.
From then, I became the nosey parent, always asking what was in the boxes and what did they do? I came to every parent night and couldn’t get enough of this Montessori thing. We had since moved to Utah and immediately enrolled Lina in a Montessori school there, continuing my questioning of every little thing. One day the director of the school asked why I didn’t take the training. “Oh, no. I’m not a teacher. I’m a scientist,” I said. But I started to think about it. I read a little of Dr. Montessori’s work and realized she was a scientist, too.
Decades later both of my children, and now their children, have been through our school. Lina and Leith both did well in college, pursued careers in areas far removed from education, but came back to our school to teach and to lead. They are happy, successful adults who enjoy their days, no matter what they are doing. They have always been good at academics; they read a lot; they are interested in many things and never stop learning. They are students of life. But as a parent, I would say that the most important thing they got from their Montessori years was that sense of mindfulness, of purpose, of knowing how to solve a problem, of acting independently and confidently, of enjoying every moment.
I recently attended the International Montessori Congress in Bangkok, where a group of Montessori adolescents spoke. This presentation came at the end of the conference after many adult presenters spoke of the trying times in our world today. One of the adolescents concluded her presentation by saying that she listened to what the adults had been saying and just wanted to reply, “We’ve got this.”
Duna Strachan, MEd, is the Founder and Executive Director of Soaring Wings International Montessori School in Park City, Utah, mother of two grown, happy, and successful Montessori children and grandmother of five Montessori grandchildren with all kinds of potential!
