Book Review: The Six Stages of Parenthood

Book Review: The Six Stages of Parenthood

Written by Ellen Galinsky

Have you ever wondered if there are stages to parenthood like there are for childhood? The answer is, “Yes. There are.” Ellen Galinsky did an in-depth study of parents during different times from when their children were “imagined” to when their children were grown and leaving home.

My children are in their 30s and I now have a grandson who is seven years old. It was interesting to me to think about him when my daughter-in-law was pregnant, then in the first months after he was born, and on into the elementary years. As a grandparent I can see him differently than when my own children were growing and changing but there are many similarities to the parent stages. You are probably in the midst of a parenting stage or stages, depending on whether you have one or more children. This book may help you sort out and better understand your own feelings and thoughts as well as your parenting partner’s.

Book Review: Water Land

Book Review: Water Land

WATER LAND: LAND AND WATER FORMS AROUND THE WORLD

Written by Christy Hale

I love this book for the classroom or at home! Christy Hale based this book on our land and water forms from the cultural area of Montessori classrooms. She not only wrote the text (of which there are just the names of each land or water form on that page) but also, she is an artist and did a wonderful job with the colors and illustrations. The way she designed the book is so clear and crisp. Children will not be distracted by too many words as they discover this part of our natural world. It’s so much fun, like magic, when the reader carefully turns the page and sees how each water form has an opposite landform.

To top it all off, Ms. Hale has included a fold-out chart at the back of the book with more information about the land and water forms and a map to see where the large ones are located around the world. Children ages 4-8 years will love this book!

A Note from The Program Director

A Note from The Program Director

Dear Montessori Family Alliance Members,

Welcome to 2024! Thank you for being part of our international community of Montessori families! Join us for our weekly Tuesday Family Life Webinar Series and our monthly Wit & Wisdom: Family Chat Sessions. Both broadcasts are live on Zoom to facilitate conversation and community. They are free and open to anyone whether or not they have children in a Montessori school. So, feel free to invite friends and family. If you can’t make it to our live sessions, just be sure to open your Montessori Family Alliance account and get The Montessori App to view the archived recordings of our Family Life Webinars. If you are not sure how to open your account, ask your school administrator or send us an email at info@montessori.org.

I always get excited when the new year comes around. It’s such an adventure since we have no way to see exactly what is in store for us in our relationships, our work, or our world. One thing we do know for sure in life — change is inevitable.

This year, as every year, we will see and experience change, which will cause us and others around us to react or respond in different ways. Our children need us to help them learn to navigate changes in their lives.

Over 20 years ago, Dr. Spencer Johnson wrote a little book called Who Moved My Cheese? In this story, each of the four characters handles change in different ways.

  • Those who look for change and get prepared;
  • Those who spring into action and incorporate the necessary change into their routine;
  • Those who don’t expect it and are frightened into inaction for a while. Eventually, they overcome their fear, let go, and get going;
  • Those who are stuck in the comfort of the known and are left behind.

Since change is inevitable, here are a few ways to support our children as changes occur:

  • Give them a warning. Life is dynamic. It never stays the same. Let them know that so they are not surprised when changes happen.
  • Remember that you are their model for how to deal with change.
  • Talk about and explore feelings about change: fear, excitement, frustration, adventure, challenge, anger, and pleasure. Let them know that those feelings are natural.
  • Support their effort in dealing with new situations, their progress in developing coping skills, and their positive attitude and creativity.

I hope these tips help now and throughout the new year.

Lorna McGrath
MFA Program Director, lornamcgrath@montessori.org
What Does the Laundry Have to Do with it?

What Does the Laundry Have to Do with it?

Practical Life is a fundamental part of the Montessori curriculum. Dr. Maria Montessori wrote, “Education should not just be preparation for university, but preparation for life.” We want our children to have the skills and knowledge to function very well independently: capable of caring for themselves and their environments; knowing how to behave in a manner that will lead them to success in all aspects of their personal, educational, and professional lives. Our responsibility as parents is to help them to be ready for successful, independent living.

In Montessori classrooms, at every level from toddlers to young adults we divide Practical Life into the following areas: Care of Oneself; Care of One’s Environment; Food Preparation; and Grace and Courtesy. Just as at every level in our classrooms children become more and more abstract thinkers and have less need of pre-made materials to demonstrate skills and concepts, so a similar evolution occurs in our homes.

In the early years children work with activities, all very neatly ordered and on the shelves. The activities are specifically designed for them to learn all sorts of Practical Life skills, such as dishwashing; preparing for their own snack; using utensils; and resolving conflicts using their words. The Practical Life area is quite obvious in a Toddler or Early Childhood classroom. In the Elementary years practical life materials are not always designated to an area or grouping of shelves. They tend to be placed around the indoor and outdoor environments where they can be accessed when needed. For example, you may find them in a garden shed, a kitchen area, or at a workbench with cabinets for tools. At the Adolescent level students may be helping with projects in the larger community such as Habitat for Humanity; traveling across town to the public library or the local college to do research; writing their resume and cover letters to set up internships for themselves in local businesses; or designing costumes for a performance.

Throughout their home and school years these kinds of activities are important because they have dual purposes within each activity. The obvious purpose is the skill that they learn from each activity like how to use a dustpan and brush, how to plan and prepare a meal, how to interrupt politely, how to peel and cut bananas, how to get across town on a bus, or how to fold the laundry, etc. The other purpose is what we like to call the “hidden lessons” which are as, or more important than the actual skill attained. These hidden lessons are independence, order, concentration, and coordination.

So when we think about folding laundry, and we observe children doing that activity we can easily see that knowing how to fold it helps them to develop a skill that will allow them to be more independent. At the same time, they are learning to sort and categorize laundry items to create order, to pay attention and carefully fold clothing neatly, and to coordinate their hands and minds as they complete the activity. These are essential skills that apply to many aspects of their adult life. The beauty of it is that children do this work throughout their growing years without being conscious of all that they are learning.

So next time your child tells you about folding the laundry at school, or you watch your child folding and putting laundry away at home, notice the sparkle in their eye and the pride in their work that your children have when they participate in these everyday activities. 

The child who has felt a strong love for his surroundings, and for all living creatures, who has discovered joy and enthusiasm in work, gives us reason to hope that humanity can develop in a new direction.

Maria Montessori

Here are some of the activities for home and school, at each level of development.

Toddler Level

  • Dressing and undressing oneself
  • Feeding oneself
  • Toileting oneself
  • Saying hello and good-bye
  • Sharing
  • Cleaning up spills
  • Putting work away
  • Washing hands and bathing oneself

Primary Level

  • Sewing
  • Hand Washing
  • Dressing and undressing oneself
  • Preparing snacks and appetizers
  • Baking
  • Following simple recipes
  • Manners
  • Watering plants
  • Arranging flowers
  • Sweeping the floor
  • Washing dishes
  • Folding laundry
  • Gardening
  • Woodworking
  • Conflict resolution
  • Greeting and welcoming guests
  • Doing Laundry
  • Making the bed

Elementary Level

  • Preparing more complex recipes

  • Planning and preparing family meals

  • Writing invitations and thank you’s

  • Choosing appropriate clothing for different occasions

  • Telephone and texting manners

  • Running a business

  • Gardening

  • Managing money

  • Greeting and welcoming guests

  • Introducing people and oneself

  • Conflict resolution

  • Participating in team activities

  • Understanding rules and games

  • Planning “get togethers” and parties

  • Learning to dance

  • Allowances and chores

  • Cleaning and organizing their room

Secondary Level

  • Social networking etiquette and safety

  • Understanding body changes

  • Interacting appropriately with different genders

  • Dressing for the occasion

  • Community service

  • Bank accounts and debit cards

  • Reconciling check books

  • Check writing

  • Mind trust

  • Understanding advertising and it effects

  • Recognizing everyone’s contribution to the whole

  • Using public transportation

Book Review: Water Land

Book Reviews by Lorna McGrath

Water Land: Land and Water Forms Around the World

Written by Christy Hale

I love this book for the classroom or at home! Christy Hale based this book on our land and water forms from the cultural area of Montessori classrooms. She not only wrote the text (of which there are just the names of each land or water form on that page) but also, she is an artist and did a wonderful job with the colors and illustrations. The way she designed the book is so clear and crisp. Children will not be distracted by too many words as they discover this part of our natural world. It’s so much fun, like magic, when the reader carefully turns the page and sees how each water form has an opposite landform.

To top it all off, Ms. Hale has included a fold-out chart at the back of the book with more information about the land and water forms and a map to see where the large ones are located around the world. Children ages 4-8 years will love this book!

The Six Stages of Parenthood

Written by Ellen Galinsky

Have you ever wondered if there are stages to parenthood like there are for childhood? The answer is, “Yes. There are.” Ellen Galinsky did an in-depth study of parents during different times from when their children were “imagined” to when their children were grown and leaving home.

My children are in their 30s and I now have a grandson who is seven years old. It was interesting to me to think about him when my daughter-in-law was pregnant, then in the first months after he was born, and on into the elementary years. As a grandparent I can see him differently than when my own children were growing and changing but there are many similarities to the parent stages. You are probably in the midst of a parenting stage or stages, depending on whether you have one or more children. This book may help you sort out and better understand your own feelings and thoughts as well as your parenting partner’s.

Once in a Full Moon

Written by Carolinda Goodman

Illustrated by Mariia Luzina

Carolinda Goodman’s book is written as a poem. She describes in a rhythmic way all the full moons around the year. She gives the name of the moon and why it got that name. Mariia Luzina beautifully illustrates each moon and the earthly surroundings according to the name and season. The illustrations really enhance the poetry from the author. Wonderful for at home or school for children ages 4-8 years.

All the Colors We Are: The Story of How We Get Our Skin Color

Todos los colores de nuestra piel: La historia de por qué tenemos diferentes colores de piel

Written by Katie Kissinger

Photographed by Chris Bohnhoff

On every page of this book the text is in English and Spanish. What a joy! This book was written in a way that 4-year-olds to 8-year-olds will get something age-appropriate from it. For the 4-year-olds, they’ll learn something they may not have known about each other and for the 8-year-olds it may spark some interest in further research about biology or maybe genealogy. Oh… and the photographs are magnificent! The author has also included activities for children at the back of the book. Again, I think this book would be good for home or school.

Amy Wu and the Patchwork Dragon

Written by Kat Zhang

Illustrated by Charlene Chua

This would be a great book for four- to 7-year-olds, especially when studying Asia. The story begins in an Early Childhood or Lower Elementary classroom when their teacher reads them a story about dragons and then asks them to make dragons of their own. Amy became frustrated because the dragons were not turning out as she wished they would. After school she and her friends went to her house and her grandmother read them a story about dragons. Gramma’s story triggered a memory of something up in the attic. Teachers will love this story for cultural studies, art projects, and developing reading skills. Parents will like it, too.

Be You!

Written by Peter H. Reynolds

Peter H. Reynolds is a favorite children’s book writer who has started a social change agency called FableVision with his brother, Paul. Their idea was to help “create stories that matter, stories that move.” This book is full of words that describe different characteristics that lead humans to their own uniqueness. They are phrases that always start with “be.” What a wonderful verb. He uses phrases such as be ready, be kind, be okay with reaching out, be persistent, and many more. This is an enjoyable and inspiring book for people of all ages.

Book Review: Welcome to Montessori – A Dictionary for Families

Book Review: Welcome to Montessori – A Dictionary for Families

Written by Faye Lundberg

This book is a paperback booklet originally created to fill a need in the author’s school. She found that parents were interested in knowing more about their child’s classroom experience. Her idea was to share information about the basic principles of a Montessori classroom and the activities within the 3–6-year-old (Early Childhood) classroom.

Ms. Lundberg briefly describes each curriculum area and then some of the key lessons in those areas. She has included photos of the materials along with their descriptions. She has also added a short biography of Dr. Montessori and some ideas for the home.

This is a great little tool to get parents started in their knowledge and understanding of Montessori at the Early Childhood level. You can purchase this booklet at amazon.com.

Book Review: A Handwashing Story

Book Review: A Handwashing Story

Written by Pat Prisk,

Illustrated by Jason D. McIntosh

This is a wonderfully fun, imaginative story of getting cleaned up! The illustrations are very colorful and fanciful! They make cleaning up a joyful adventure rather than drudgery. Pat Prisk shows (down in the corner of each page) the steps to washing hands. She then reinforces the process by putting each of the steps to handwashing on one page at the end of the book. She also includes ideas for parents, caregivers, and other adults involved in caring for children. I think youngsters 2 to 7 years old will love this book.

Book Review: The Hug Who Got Stuck

Book Review: The Hug Who Got Stuck

Written by Andrew Newman,

Illustrated by Alexis Aronson

Our friend and author Andrew Newman has added another bedtime book to the collection, including Snuggle Breathing. This is a lovely story for just before going to sleep about the power of hugs to help ourselves and others stay disentangled from negative thoughts. It also reminds us that hugs have a ripple effect in our families and throughout the world.

This whole series by Andrew is filled with books that help children fill their minds with positive, warm emotions when they are getting ready for a peaceful night’s sleep. They are available from www. consciousstories.com.

Book Review: Think Farm Animals

Book Review: Think Farm Animals

Written by Karen Robbins

Illustrated by Rachael Brunson

Karen Robbins has written two sturdy books for two- to four-year-old’s about animals: Think Farm Animals and Think Zoo Animals. The pages can be easily turned, and the flaps easily opened by young hands. The illustrations are colorful, visually pleasing, and realistic.

Each book is set up similarly with a hint and a question on the left page and an opening that allows the child to see part of the animal on the right page.

For example: In the Farm Animals book on the left page, it reads, “I have a swishy tail and say ‘Moo!’ What can I be?” And on the right page, an opening shows a white and black tail with the word “Think” written below. I love that!

Remember children at this young age are still developing impulse control. The adult can help them with that in a fun way by saying something like, “Hmmmm. I’m ‘thinking’ about animals on a farm. Do we know a song about that? ‘With a moo-moo here and a moo-moo there.’ What could it be?” All the while holding the flap closed as the adult and child “think” together. You could even say to the child, “Let’s keep the flap closed so that we can ‘think’ for a minute.”

Lovely books for young children. I wish there were more!

Book Review: Think Circles

Book Review: Think Circles

Written by Karen S. Robbins

I was pleasantly surprised when I opened this book for young children. I was expecting a book that has too much to sort out on a page, is visually distracting for young children, and could easily be torn or damaged by accident.

The author of Think Circles! isolates each illustration on the pages to answer the hint. For example: On page 1, the hint is “Bouncing Circle” and the question is “What can it be?” On the opposite page, there is a hidden object with just one opening to view part of the pictured answer with the word, “Think.” Adults get to have fun with this, too, as they read the words to the child and maybe, if needed, add another hint to play along with “thinking” about what the hidden object might be. I love that she invites the child to “think.”

Ms. Robbins also adds in another level of difficulty by adding objects to each page. So, on page 1, there is just one hidden object. On page 2 there are two hidden objects. On page 3 there are three objects, and so on to 10. On each page, there are the corresponding openings, so that children can count the openings and then count the objects when they open the flap to see the answer.

As a teacher, I would present one concept at a time. I would either introduce the book as a problem-solving lesson or as a counting lesson but not both at the same time. Both concepts are higher-level thinking. Either could be presented first. I would probably introduce the “thinking” concept first just because I like it.

The pages are quite sturdy, so that young children can use these books without accidentally damaging the books, assuming the adult has given the child a lesson on carefully turning/opening pages in a book. That’s important since we want children to be successful as they use books and other activities. The illustrations are colorful, attractive, and quite realistic.

There are two other books in this series – Think Triangles! and Think Squares! These books would be enjoyed by children 3-6 years old.

Book Review: Big and Small

Book Review: Big and Small

Written by Britta Teckentrup

This is a little board book for your infant or toddler. There is one quite realistic, colorful picture and one word on each page. Pages that are opposite each other in the book are opposite sizes. As you read this book together, your child will increase their vocabulary as you identify the picture images and begin to get some sense that there is a difference in the sizes of things. This is a difficult concept for a little one to really understand from a two-dimensional picture. However, you can put together an activity using objects that show the same concept in a three-dimensional way. For example: a big ball and a small ball; a big spoon and a small spoon; a big stuffed animal and a small stuffed animal; etc. Have fun reading this with your child!

Book Review: The Potential in Every Child

Book Review: The Potential in Every Child

Written by Gavin McCormack

Illustrated by Iris Villarrubia

Parents will find this book to be a quick and easy reference for everyday living practices with their child. Gavin McCormack has boiled down one-hundred ideas that are in alignment with Montessori philosophy for parents. The ideas are mainly for elementary-age children, and some are for children in the early childhood stage. Then some ideas can be used with children from early childhood through the elementary years and beyond. A few examples are: “Give your child the responsibility to take care of their things.” “Spend one night per week walking and talking. Look at the moon and discuss big-picture ideas.” “Do not replace things that get broken. Learn the value of money and repair things together.”

On each page, the author writes the main idea and then explains the value of practicing it with your child, the family, or the larger community outside your family. Each idea has a two-page spread with an illustration on one page and the idea and value on the other. The illustrations are in color and in a style similar to what a child might draw.

Parents may appreciate the brevity of the content in this book, as life can get so full and time is precious. It can be found on most online booksellers.

Book Review: Amazing Bees

Book Review: Amazing Bees

Written by Sue Unstead

I just discovered that DK Publishers has a reading series. As always, this book is beautifully illustrated with photos of real honeybees, flowers, honeycombs, and all the other things that are part of a honey bee’s life. Amazing Bees is a Level 2 reader. The print is nice and big with just the right amount of information for an emerging reader. I am in love with this book and am now ordering a couple of books from each of the levels to see how they progress. I trust that I will be just as pleased with other books in this reading series. This is a great addition to a home or school library. You can purchase books in this series from amazon.com and probably other booksellers as well.

Book Review: Here and There

Book Review: Here and There

Written by Tamara Ellis Smith

Illustrated by Evelyn Daviddi

Ivan’s parents split up and are living in separate houses. Ivan didn’t like that he had to go here and there. He didn’t think he could be happy and himself with his parents apart. It took a little time and some adjustment for Ivan to realize that love and happiness could be shared; that love and happiness could be both here and there. It’s important for children to know that families can change and be structured in different ways. Time helps. Love helps. And some things will be held in common here and there.

Book Review: Your Baby is Speaking to You

Book Review: Your Baby is Speaking to You

Written by Dr. Kevin Nugent

Photography by Abelardo Morell

Whether this is your first newborn or your fourth, this book has a lot to offer. It will stimulate your awareness of how much and how often babies are speaking to us, if we would only listen. More than anything else, Dr. Nugent is calling us to slow down and pay attention to all the ways that newborns and infants communicate with us without using a word.

These little, tiny humans, new to the world, are ready, willing, and able to express themselves, if we not only take the time to be present but also begin to understand their language. They are awesome!

The photographs beautifully connect Dr. Nugent’s written words with the innocence, the emotions, and the sheer wonder of these small beings! Buy this book for yourself or give it to someone you know. You’ll be glad you did.

Book Review: Those Shoes

Book Review: Those Shoes

Written by Maribeth Boelts

Illustrated by Noah Z. Jones

As children grow into the elementary years and beyond, they are often influenced by the media and their peers. They want to fit in with the other kids in their schools and neighborhoods.

This story is set in a city but could be any setting whether urban, rural, or suburban. The main character, Jeremy, sees that many of his peers are all getting a particular type of shoe and are feeling very cool about it. One day his shoes fall apart at school, and the counselor gives him a pair of shoes, but Jeremy is embarrassed. When the other boys see the shoes, they laugh at him.

His grandmother says that what he really needs is a new pair of snow boots, but Jeremy really wants to have a pair of “those shoes.”

After much searching from one thrift store to another, Jeremy finds a pair of “those shoes.” He pays for them himself, even though he knows they are too small for him. Find out what Jeremy finally decides to do with “those shoes” at the end.

The illustrations are vibrant with color and movement. The style reminds me of the style of Ezra Jack Keats. Elementary children will enjoy this book, and it may serve as a conversation starter about Jeremy and the choices that he makes.

Book Review: Little Humans

Book Review: Little Humans

Written by Brandon Stanton

Brandon Stanton is a photographer in New York City. In this book, he used only photos of children from toddlers through the elementary years. He adds some prose to tell the readers all that “little humans” can do and be. The photography was not done in a studio but out on the streets of New York. Readers will see children who are dressed up in their fancy clothes, sports gear, and everyday clothes, doing all kinds of things like dancing, playing a musical instrument, riding a bike, getting ready for hockey, and more. Young children will enjoy both the text and the photos.

Book Review: Blackwater – Sometimes a lie is harder than the truth

Book Review: Blackwater – Sometimes a lie is harder than the truth

Written by Eve Bunting

Eve Bunting is not new to writing children’s picture books, storybooks, and children’s novels. Blackwater will engage readers from ages 11-14 years old with a story of tragedy, mystery, and moral dilemmas.

It reminds readers of the importance of always being mindful of the choices they make and the actions that they take. Sometimes, even just a simple act of jealousy or revenge can lead to tragedy and can ruin a person’s life or worse. In this story an entire town was affected by the sudden death of two teens and the unspoken truth about the incident.

Brodie, the main character of the novel, struggled with guilt, grief, and truth telling because of his part in the accidental deaths of two of his peers. Fortunately, a good friend encouraged Brodie to confess his actions. When he did, his parents stood by his side as he suffered the consequences of his actions.

This is a book that parents, and teachers will want to read along with their teens to openly discuss the choices that were made and the events that occurred. Guiding children through the teen years and allowing space for them to express opinions and wrestle with tough decisions is an important part of our role in parenting and teaching. Expressing our own values in a non-defensive or non-judgmental way, while creating that space, is the key to helping our teens process real life situations.