Help your child develop independence in caring for self and their environment.
Age: When walking
Materials:
Water Jug
Grate
Water Dispenser
Water Dispenser and Stand
Low Stool
Bin
Sink Grate
Plastic Tub
Small Rug
3 oz. Pitcher
Preparation:
Place the rug on the floor where you would like to have the water source accessible to your child.
Place the tub on the rug and the sink grate on top of the tub.
Place the low stool over the grate and tub so that about half of the tub/grate is visible.
Fill the dispenser one-third full of water.
Place the dispenser on the stool so the spout is over the grate and tub.
Place the jug on top of the dispenser.
Show Your Child:
Tell your children you will show them how to get a glass of water.
Show them where their glasses are kept and ask them to place them on the table.
Show your children where you keep a little pitcher (about 3 oz).
Introduce the water source.
Bring the pitcher to the water source and show how to put the pitcher under the spout, on the grate.
Invite your children to try. *
Push the spout lever down to release a little water into the pitcher and let go.
Ask a child to have a turn.
They may need help to know when to let go.
Ask the child to carry the pitcher to the table with two hands.
Go with the child to the table.
Ask the child to put the pitcher on the table next to the glass.
Sit down, invite your child to pour the water into their glass. (It is important to make sure to sit while drinking. This prevents spills around the house and proper posture when drinking from a glass.)
Let children know that they can get water from the water source when they need.
This is a great time to show children where you keep clean-up cloths, just in case, they have a spill.
*For children younger than three, when we give them a chance to try each step, we keep their interest, we slow down the lesson, and we invite them to be a part of the process.
I started noticing that my son’s backpack was full of what I considered trash: broken rubber bands; the inner ring from a roll of tape; and bits of string. I asked him what they were for, and he just said that he needed them. I cleaned out any insect-attracting items, such as broken crackers and left the rest for whatever he had in mind. Then I noticed items moving from the recycling bin to his bedroom: egg boxes; milk cartons; and cardboard boxes of various sizes.
He said he needed them all. So, we agreed that he would keep them in a designated messy area in his room, then I took a deep breath and went with it. One day, he emerged with a “smoothie shop” made of cardboard and trash, each part thoughtfully glued together. With grace and courtesy, he took our orders, and we played along. He was so proud, and I silently thanked his Montessori teachers for showing us how to let him follow his interests.
— Tara, mother of John, aged 7 years
Reprinted with permission from DK Publishers – Montessori for Every Family: A Practical Parenting Guide to Living, Loving, and Learning by Tim Seldin and Lorna McGrath
WE ARE THINKING ABOUT THE UPCOMING HOLIDAYS AND HOW AND WHEN TO BRING OUR CHILD INTO OUR FAMILY’S TRADITIONS. SOMETIMES, IT FEELS TOTALLY OVERWHELMING, AND MAYBE IT IS JUST TOO SOON TO THINK ABOUT IT AT ALL. WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO BEGIN, AND WHAT KINDS OF ACTIVITIES SHOULD WE BE THINKING ABOUT?
— A YOUNG FAMILY
Dear Young Family,
It is never too soon to begin creating intentional traditions or just living and sharing the seasons and the holidays and letting your repeated experiences grow into family traditions. The truth is, often, anything a family does twice is considered to be a tradition by children. As you enjoy celebrating the changing seasons or the holidays, it is natural to want to share that with your children and involve them in your joy. Your enthusiasm will be contagious, whether picking apples, carving pumpkins, planning Thanksgiving meals, putting out decorations, going to an Autumn fest, or walking in nature to appreciate the colorful leaves or flowers. Sharing them with young children sets the stage for future experiences — building memories extending into middle childhood, adolescence, and beyond. Shared experiences make strong families. And children will look forward to traditions.
Aim for yearly traditions spanning each season of the year. Traditions can revolve around nature, planting and harvesting, food and food preparation, and trips to the zoo, park, pumpkin patch, nature trails, or farmer’s market. They can also involve preparation of the home, such as decorating for a season, weeding out your clothes or toys as the children grow, or sharing sports experiences, either as spectators or as participants: skiing, snowboarding, skating, hiking, beach time, etc. Philanthropic projects can also be a part of holiday traditions that can grow with the family as the children’s ability to participate increases.
Any type or level of holiday tradition should be upbeat and fun; these activities will help build a strong family. Enjoy any holidays you may celebrate, especially the time you spend with each other.
Cathie Perolman is a reading specialist, Elementary educator, author, consultant, and creator of educational materials for Primary and Elementary students. Check out her new downloadable materials on her website cathieperolman.com.
For more than three decades, she has dedicated her energies to improving reading for all youngsters. She is the author of Practical Special Needs for the Montessori Method: A Handbook for 3-6 Teachers and Homeschoolers published by the Montessori Foundation (available through montessori.org.) She is a regular contributor to Tomorrow’s Child and Montessori Leadership magazines.
Cathie holds a BS in Early Childhood Education and a MEd in Elementary Education, with a concentration in reading. She is credentialed as a Montessori teacher. She is married and has two adult children and two adorable granddaughters.
Illustrated by Alishs Nicole Brumfield, Brenda Brambila, Esma Bošnjaković, Samantha Morales-Johnson, Sophia Marie Pappas, Tracy Nishimura Bishop, and Chie Ushio
During the years that I have been studying the Montessori Method and philosophy, I have read, literally, hundreds of books written by Montessorians, as well as many experts from others in the field of child and adolescent development. Most recently, my focus has been on supporting families, and many good books are out now for parents. This one gets a gold star from me!
Babies Build Toddlers is written to support families of infants through 18 months old. Mariana Bissonnette brilliantly gives readers enough information about child development so that, when they are done, they actually feel secure in their knowledge of infant development and their capability to do the right things for their baby instead of being overwhelmed by too much and, frankly, too technical information.
The author uses a plant analogy to describe how the baby builds the toddler. It’s beautifully simple and sensible! And she has a wonderful sense of humor. You may notice that there is quite a list of illustrators for Bissonnette’s book. Nicely done! The illustrations are fun, colorful, multicultural, multiracial, and multigender. There is no one kind of family.
There are five parts:
The Plant (the toddler) This part explains who the toddler is.
The Roots (infant development) Here, the reader learns the critical areas of development for infants.
The Conditions (the physical and emotional environment) Now the reader learns what infants need to do in their home to develop to their full potential.
The Gardener (the adult’s role) Finally, the reader discovers how to best support their baby during these most important months of life.
The Full Chart (a timeline for your baby’s growth) The reader gets here, and they know they’re ready!
The author is a Montessorian. The values that we hold dear are all in here: respect; dignity; practice informed by observation; empathy; recognition of potential; independence; order; peaceful interactions; and more.
You can purchase this book (new or used) at most book distributors.
Just Ask … Be Different, Be Brave, Be You
Written by Sonia Sotomayor, US Supreme Court Justice
Illustrated by Rafael López
In this book, a group of children go together to a garden. They decide where to plant flowers, water trees, and enjoy the day together. As each child in the book introduces themselves, we learn that each child is “differently abled.” Some of them take medicine to keep healthy, and some use special tools to get around and learn or act differently than most children do.
The author suggests that, like only having one kind of plant, the world would be quite uninteresting, if all humans were the same. She also lets the readers know that it’s okay to ask about differences so we can better understand each other’s unique qualities and circumstances. The illustrations are done in lovely colors and give quite a realistic view of each of the children in the book.
Children 4-8 years old would enjoy this book.
Nell Plants A Tree
Written by Anne Wynter
Illustrated by Daniel Miyares
Wow! This one is a powerful, well-written, and beautifully illustrated book about a young girl named Nell who plants a seed. The steps from finding a seed to every step along the way to a fully grown tree producing its own pecans are laid out in a lovely and rhythmic story of then and now. It swings gently back and forth through time as the tree and the humans grow and change together over the years.
There is so much to explore about the growth and development of a tree in this story, especially the love, care, and attention it takes for it to thrive. How humans interact with this gift from nature becomes a truly heartwarming story. The memories that everyone makes in and around this tree will never be forgotten. Then, at the end, we come full circle as a new child finds a seed and asks Gramma Nell what to do with it. And, so, it starts again — the wonderful circle of life!
You Hold Me Up
Written by Monique Gray Smith and Danielle Daniel
This book demonstrates what it means to honor and support families, friends, and cultures using both text and illustrations. It is quite beautifully written as well as pictured. Though we cannot change horrific events that occurred in the past, we can change how we treat each other now. We can better understand each other, empathize with each other, and respectfully embrace each other.
Human history is not always a pretty sight; we need to study and learn from it honestly. Depending on the age and maturity of the child or children in your care, the material in this book can be simply read as a story of friends and family with a young audience. With a more mature audience, it could include the history that the author referred to in the back of the book. It can be presented in different ways to children from 3-10 years old.
The Colors of Us
Written by Karen Katz
This is a story about a mom helping her daughter, Lena, to develop an awareness of the many shades of colors that people have. Mom wants her daughter to recognize that skin color varies greatly. Then, when she paints people’s pictures, the colors will be uniquely theirs. They describe the colors by likening them to yummy things to eat, like honey or chocolate cupcakes, and to things found in nature, like autumn leaves or precious metals. At the end of the day, Lena realized that she needed to mix several colors together to create just the right one for each of her friends. The illustrations are bright and full of color, as you expect! Children from 4-8 years old would enjoy this book.
The Mighty Solar Panel — Because Nothing’s More Powerful than a Sunny Day!
Written by Daniel Jarrett
This is an interesting book published by an Australian solar company. The author tells the story of what solar panels are, how they collect energy, how excess energy is sent to storage plants, and the value of using solar power rather than fossil fuels.
The illustrations are colorful and lively. The Sun is the narrator and tells the boy the story. It would be interesting for children ages 5-9 years old.
The Shortest Day: Celebrating The Winter Solstice
Written by Wendy Pfeffer
Illustrated by Jesse Reisch
Gorgeous, realistic illustrations! This paperback book beautifully shows the changes that the planet and living creatures go through as they prepare for the change in season. It is based in the northern hemisphere. The author explains in a clear and uncomplicated way what happens as the Earth revolves around the Sun.
You can also show your child how this works with a flashlight and a globe. See the back of the book for details.
Then, the author tells the story of how people felt when the seasons changed and what they learned about the Earth, the Sun, and the seasons. She tells what humans began to do to celebrate these changes in the year. The celebrations became yearly traditions, differing from place to place and according to human beliefs.
There are several pages of information and activities at the end of the book: an illustration of the Earth’s rotation; a sunrise/sunset chart; measuring shadows; northern and southernmost points during the year; the tilt of the Earth activity; a cupcake recipe; and a guide for creating a pinecone feeder for the birds.
This book is done quite well for children 5-8 years old. It is beautiful, encourages wonder and awe, and provides activities for families to do together.
Calling all teachers, parents, & children! We would love to publish reviews of your favorite books. Send book reviews to Lorna at: lornamcgraph@montessori.org
“We shall walk together on this path of life, for all things are part of the universe and are connected with each other to form one whole unity.”
— Maria Montessori, To Educate the Human Potential
One of my first experiences in Montessori pre-school was following my lead teacher and classmate to learn a long and lyrically complex chant about the three bears. And I found it wondrous how much three- and four-year-olds can learn and remember. Songs blend language and math, tune ears to listen to and be able to repeat sounds and strengthen memory. Singing together joins the individual to a group, yet never loses one’s individuality.
I make up songs and have done so since I was ten or eleven. I ‘taught’ pre-school as a Montessori guide for 24 years. We sang the The Alphabet Song backward: z,y,x,w,v,u,t. We clapped our hands and feet, clicked claves*, and shook shakers we made from paper towel rolls affixed with jingle bells. We sang, “Please, please, push in your chairs. (Fish can’t do it, and neither will bears).” Chairs were pushed in, and it was fun.
*A clave is one of a pair of cylindrical hardwood sticks that are used as a percussion instrument.
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Kim, along with her husband Dave, have been Montessori advocates and parents for the better part of 15 years now. Their oldest son went off to college this fall and they still have three sons at home. Communication is a key element in their family life for making things work. Join us as Kim shares some of the things she has learned over her years as the parent of four growing boys.
This book brings new light to the children’s song about an itsy-bitsy spider! The illustrations are action packed, the spider is persistent, and in the process Itsy not only builds a new house but makes new friends as well. The words to the song are written out at the end of the book. Fun to read, fun to sing, and fun to imagine! I would recommend this book for children 2 to 7 years old.
Written by Grace Byers, Illustrated by Keturah A. Bobo
I am enough. What does that mean? Enough what?
The author, Grace Byers, describes in rhyme what she means by the title. Young children love rhyming, and they will love the rhythm of the words in this book. It is beautifully illustrated with realistic drawings of girls of all kinds. Yet, it is a book for boys and girls that sends messages about loving oneself, respecting others, and being kind to one another. Highly recommended for children from 3 to 8 years old. It is available from most book sellers.
As the winter holiday season officially begins here in the USA with Thanksgiving we want to take some time to consider how we can instill an attitude of gratitude in ourselves and our children. Please join us for this inspiring time together.
Would you like to build a stronger partnership with the administration and board at your child’s school? What are the key steps to partnering with school administrators and teachers to set you and your child’s school up for collaboration, problem solving, and opening doors for both your child’s success and school growth? Join our team for ideas and communication strategies.
This is one of our favorite webinars. We love to read with and to children. Our motto is “Drop everything and grab a book!” We will review some of our favorites for children and adults. We will also include a PDF of great reads for you to refer to later. Join us for terrific book ideas as the holidays approach.
Good-byes and good-hellos are such an important part of your child’s day whether they show it or not. How you feel about leaving them, how you prepare them for separation, how you greet them, and what you do at the end of the day can make a huge difference in how their day goes and how they feel about themselves and their relationship with you. Our Montessori experts will share ideas for making these important times of the day a positive experience for you and your child.
Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave
Written by Lori K. Mihalich-Levin, JD
Let’s face it, the vast majority of parents have (or want) to go back to work sooner or later and it’s really difficult to find a guide for how to do that in the most healthy and practical way possible. The author wrote this book specifically with moms in mind and from a mom’s perspective. However, I think that any parent or primary caregiver, who is about to go back to work after family leave, would benefit from the ideas and suggestions in it.
My suggestion to readers who are not female, and the birth mother is, try not to be distracted or to become defensive or offended by some of the language and ideas specifically for “mommies.” If you can extrapolate the messages she is making, you will probably get some very useful information from this book.
Back to Work After Baby addresses both the reader’s “soft side” (the emotions that often accompany returning to work) and “hard side” (the logistics that must be figured out for the return). It is well organized, and the reader can easily access the specific areas of interest. Chapters include:
• A Mindful Mindset for Return
• All Those Logistics
• Turning Leave into Leadership
• Building Community
Whether this is your first child or any number after that, you will find information, ideas, and understanding in this book. You can purchase it from most booksellers.
We Gather Together: Celebrating the Harvest Season
Written by Wendy Pfeffer, Illustrated by Linda Bleck
Wendy Pfeffer is one of my favorite children’s book writers. As usual, I really appreciate how she not only tells interesting stories but also helps children learn about scientific events, such as the fall equinox and the history of humans around the world. We Gather Together is no exception, and it is wonderfully illustrated by Linda Bleck.
I loved reading about harvest celebrations around the world and their history. However, I am a bit skeptical about the description of the United States legend concerning the Pilgrims and Native Americans. Please read the two-page spread in advance before reading to your children, then decide for yourself whether to read it as written. I would recommend this book for children 4 to 8 years old.
This is a beautifully written and illustrated book by Jim Arnosky. It is a story of autumn and wildlife in the wilderness, as a bear gets ready for winter hibernation. It is perfect for setting the stage for more in-depth research into the life of wild animals in the Northern hemisphere. Children may be curious about hibernation. They may ask questions like, “Do other animals hibernate or just bears?” “How can they sleep so long?” “Don’t they get hungry?” What do other animals do during winter?” It made me very curious about the lives of bears and other animals. I would recommend this book for children ages 4 to 8 years old.
The Montessori Family Alliance is an integral program of the Montessori Foundation, bringing you a variety of parenting tools. We appreciate your continuing support, ideas, and involvement in creating Montessori-inspired family life, as well as in choosing Montessori education for your child. By doing so, you are providing your child with consistency and alignment with two of the most important aspects of their lives: their family and their school.
During the 2022-23 school year, we spent a great deal of time searching for information to better serve you, your family, and your school, whether it be the content we provide or the method of delivering it. You helped by answering surveys, attending focus groups, and volunteering to assist in pilot parenting programs. Thank you.
All of you who are reading this letter are already members of the Montessori Family Alliance.
Because of your participation, we are starting off the 2023-24 school year with some new and exciting offerings for you and your school.
Montessori.org—home of the Montessori Foundation, the International Montessori Council, and the Montessori Family Alliance—officially released The Montessori App in the iOS and Android app stores. This new app organizes all Montessori.org resources into one central spot in a user-friendly, personalized way. Anyone can join the app, free-of-charge, to discover upcoming events and webcasts, receive notifications about news, navigate through our shop, access our website, schedule meetings with consultants, review archived articles and book reviews, and access helpful resources, such as job boards and information about parenting programs, all in one spot.
The Parenting Puzzle: ‘Peacing’ It All Together is a trusted parenting program that many schools offer to their parents and caregivers, either in person or online. It is a family leadership program that is in alignment with Montessori principles and answers the question, “How do the teachers get the children to work and live together so peacefully?” This year, any school that purchases a bulk membership to the Montessori Family Alliance receives a one-year school license to offer this program at their school, valued at $995.00.
In addition to our weekly webinars during the day, we have begun to offer Wit & Wisdom: a family chat on the last Wednesday of each month at 8:00 pm ET. It is an online ZOOM discussion group created for parents and caregivers. Each month, I will host an open discussion on topics of interest in child/adolescent development, children’s behavior, and education. We will share ideas and information together. It is open to all, and it’s free! We truly hope you will join us.
As we continue to provide programs and services for our members, we hope that you will let us know how things are going, because when you feel heard and supported, so do your children.
